Don’t let decision-making become about “either/or” choices, instead finding the “and” that opens up other solutions or temporary acceptance, writes Kristin Hendrix. “If I can’t figure it out myself, I can call on another inner voice or someone from my circle to help me talk it out,” she writes.



During my unexpected summer sabbatical, I decided to pursue additional coach training towards my ICF certification. I ended up selecting International Coach Academy (ICA) and their Workplace Coach program.

As part of the program, I work with a peer coach, coach others, and attend classes and labs. My favorite part, by far, has been the labs with Jonathan on Saturday mornings.In each lab, we have a volunteer offer to bring a challenge and be the “client”. The rest of the group suggests possible questions, and discuss which ones would be powerful, or help create insight for the client.

What I love most about these labs, and classes in general, is how much insight is possible when we open ourselves to learning. Regardless of whether I’m the client or the coach, I always learn something.Through most of the program, I realized I had a bad case of “either/or” thinking. I’d bring challenges to the table and frequently find myself feeling stuck between two alternatives.

A few classes, and powerful questions later, had me considering a third option.

The fallacy of either/or thinking

There are endless way to get from point A to point B. It doesn’t matter where we start from, or where we’re headed…there’s never just one way to arrive at our destination.For example, when we drive and come to an intersection, we may assume our only options are left and right. The reality is, we still have options. We can go back the way we came, go off road, or get out of the car and walk.