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You can become the person everyone goes to when they need encouragement and motivation by seeking to understand those around you and being there for them when they face challenges, writes Dan Rockwell. “A go-to person provides unique value by seeing things that aren’t obvious and hearing things that go unsaid,” Rockwell writes.
How to become a go-to person:
#1. A go-to person develops sagacity:
Learn and integrate diverse experiences. A sage doesn’t hide from pain and disappointment. Fools repeat and suffer. A sage learns and adapts.
Painful experiences enable you to connect and influence authentically.
Study people. A go-to person thrives by understanding people. Some are quiet. Others are talkative. Accept people.
When you reject people, they resist you.
Maintain true north. A go-to person has a viewpoint. Your lens consists of values, experience, and desire to contribute.
#2. A go-to person knows when they’re relevant.
Be near during painful situations.
Drop by after tragic loss or catastrophic failure. A sage leans in when others pull away.
Gently bring up experiences others avoid. “I’m so sorry to hear you were terminated,” for example.
Get curious when people walk untested ground. Have coffee with a person who earned that big promotion. Send a note when someone faces new opportunities or challenges.
A go-to person provides unique value by seeing things that aren’t obvious and hearing things that go unsaid.
#3. A go-to person practices Sherlocking.
A sage sees like Sherlock Holmes.
Sherlock used his skill to see things others missed and hear things others ignored to make unexpected conclusions.
People saw the light when Holmes put the puzzle together.
Seeing what others miss doesn’t have to be pushy. Grace and kindness elevate Sherlocking above intrusiveness.
In “The Adventure of the Engineer’s Thumb”, written by Sir Arthur Conan Doyle, Sherlock demonstrates compassion and kindness.
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